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How far would you go to protect your children?

 

By now, I'm sure that most people have heard the story of Sarah McKinley, of Blanchard, Oklahoma. She's a teen mom who called 9-1-1 for permission to shoot intruders trying to force their way through her front door. She eventually killed one with a 12-gauge shotgun as he broke into her home.


Although this may seem like yesterday's news since reports surfaced last week, her story remained with me long after I read the headline and heard the audio of the now famous call placed to the emergency dispatcher. I can't help but wonder how I would respond in a similar situation. To me, her bravery and presence of mind was nothing short of heroic.

Just imagine, you're a teen mom to a three-month-old boy and your husband recently died of cancer, leaving you as a widow and a single mom. Grieving and alone on New Year's Eve, you hear a noise outside and peak out of the window to see two men trying to enter your home. You can see that one of them has something shiny is his hand, is it a pistol?

What do you do? McKinley grabbed two guns, gave the baby a bottle to keep him quiet, blocked the front door with a couch, hid in a bedroom, and called 9-1-1. According to a report from CNN, she had a very intense conversation with the female dispatcher.

"I've got two guns in my hand. Is it OK to shoot him if he comes in this door?" asked McKinley.

"Well, you have to do whatever you can do to protect yourself," dispatcher Diane Graham responded. "I can't tell you that you can do that, but you do what you have to do to protect your baby."

As Justin Shane Martin pushed open the door and entered her home, she pulled the trigger of the shotgun and killed him on site. Authorities said that Martin was armed with a knife. The second intruder ran away but was later arrested. McKinley will not be charged because it was considered an act of self-defense.

So, back to the question, how far would I go to protect my children? My husband is an avid hunter and we have an arsenal of guns, lined up like soldiers in a gun safe. Would I have the guts to shoot an intruder? What if we didn't have guns? Would I have the same precence of mind as McKinley did, to run to the kitchen and grab a knife or even a cast iron pan? Would I panic and freeze in fear?

I think that I would do just about anything to protect my children. Since becoming a mother, I've discovered that I have a fierce side that is unleashed when it comes to keeping my children out of danger. I took a self defense class in high school and I'd like to believe that in an emergency, I could do some serious damage to the bad guys. I might even be willing to pull the trigger.

I think that McKinley said it best when she told a CNN Oklahoma reporter, “It’s not an easy decision to make, but it was either going to be him or my son. And it wasn’t going to be my son. There’s nothing more dangerous than a woman with a child.”

How far would you go to keep your child out of danger? Do you have protection in your home? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.

Erin Lashley January 11, 2012 at 08:36 pm
I grew up around guns, so I don't have a problem with them in theory, but who knows what would happen if I had to shoot someone. I'd like to think I could protect my kid if I had to, and also I'd like to think that I'd feel bad afterwards about shooting someone.
But anyway, this was such a weird story! First the ancient husband and the cancer, and then the home invasion. I'd like to know the backstory. Maybe they'll make a TV movie.
Mary January 11, 2012 at 08:38 pm
I agree with Gail, when you find yourself in that situation the last thing you want to do is shoot and reload. I had a very scary experience as a child. My mom's violent ex-boyfriend tried to break into our home in the middle of the night. She pulled me from my bed, grabbed her handgun, and we hid in the bathroom. He entered the house and when he came into the bathroom, my mom pulled the trigger. It missed him but scared him enough to leave. I always respected my mom for pulling the trigger that night. Trust me, if you are in real danger, a baseball bat or even a good self defense class will never be as effective as a gun. I hope that none of the ladies commenting on here find themselves in a situation like this, especially the ones that don't own a gun.
Stephanie Gross (Editor) January 11, 2012 at 09:01 pm
I would do anything and everything to keep my daughter safe if ever faced with a similar situation.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:01 pm
Good question. It's such a sad and scary situation, I can't even imagine how someone could stay in a violent relationship. I feel for the women who believe they are trapped.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:02 pm
Did you grow up with guns? We didn't and at first I was terrified when my husband took up hunting and brought guns into our home. Now that I've been educated on proper use, they seem less scary. My children are being educated about gun safety too and I like knowing that they will know the seriousness involved with guns.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:06 pm
One of the articles that I read pointed out that she didn't want to alert them to her location in the home. A warning shot may let them know that you mean business or tell them exactly where you are in the house. It's a tough call.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:09 pm
My heart goes out to this young mom. She was already dealing with enough as it was with the death of her husband. So sad.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:10 pm
I hope for your sake that a smack to the head would do it.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:11 pm
Wow, how scary. I'm so glad that it was a good ending for you! Thanks for sharing your experience.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:12 pm
You go, you roach stompin' mama! You crack me up!
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:13 pm
Yeah, her husband was significantly older than her. Also, these guys had been stalking her. The story is strange.
Leigh Hewett January 11, 2012 at 09:14 pm
Your mom was so brave. Thank you as well for sharing this super scary and personal experience.
Gail Moore January 11, 2012 at 09:16 pm
Thanks Leigh! I will say that I tried several different tactics - It was one of those "bumps" by a car that gets a woman to pull over. A very civilized section of town, but leaving work late. I tried running red lights; there were no Quik Trips back then to pull in a lighted area; I tried outrunning the gentleman. Then I pulled up at the next red light. By the time he jerked open my door, he was looking straight down the barrel of my 9mm. He left; I cried - thankful that I was safe and thankful I didn't have to shoot.
Gail Moore January 11, 2012 at 09:17 pm
Dude! That's awesome!
Sharon Swanepoel (Editor) January 11, 2012 at 09:19 pm
I've always resisted owning a gun because I had a friend who lost her father as a child when a burglar grabbed the gun and turned it on her father. However, my husband does not share my fear and at one point in his life (living in a country where the crime rate was much higher than here) he slept with his gun next to the bed. I've heard the Walton County Sheriff caution before on that very danger. If you own a gun, be sure you know how, and are prepared, to use it. I think that is key - is your protective instinct the one that is strongest?
tiffanie January 11, 2012 at 11:32 pm
Having been in TWO situations when I was a kid where another kid pointed a gun at me and said, "hey, check this out," and after witnessing THREE shootings as a child/teen I have serious reservations about owning a gun.
That being said, I plan to expose my kids to guns in a controlled environment to take the mystery out of them and to teach safety. Could I pull the trigger to protect my kids? Absolutely. That is, if there's one to pull.
Linda Labbo January 12, 2012 at 12:36 am
Most moms tend to be pioneer women! We fight against danger, illness, bullies, and yes... even intruders. Order of actions... calm the baby, call for help, load the gun, wait for help, shoot the intruder... just like the old days in the wild west... right?
Laura January 12, 2012 at 01:53 am
I've read multiple articles about it, and there is deffinitely something thaat has been left out.. The guy she shot could have easily been the child's father, and it's all too weird... I think that they should investigate further. Also, she's 18, her 58 year old husband just died, where is her family? Friends? Why is she in the middle of nowhere by herself? There's something off about the whole situation.
Susan January 12, 2012 at 02:30 am
All I have to say about this is that it wouldn't do to sneak up on me. If somebody comes over unexpectedly and jiggles the doorknob, they're going down, because everybody I love knows to call first.
Cassie Brown January 12, 2012 at 01:19 pm
I hope you're quick with that bat if 2 or more people are breaking down your door. I think this mama knew all she needed to know about self defense.
Cassie Brown January 12, 2012 at 01:21 pm
I would do the same thing. Maybe having 20 more years on this young lady I would fire a warning shot, but it would depend on the situation. Thank God she was able to protect herself and her baby.
gary grossman January 12, 2012 at 01:47 pm
Leigh, unfortunately announcing that you have an arsenal at home is an invitation to gun thieves. And before everyone jumps on the gun bandwagon, people should realize that gun accidents in the home are not infrequent, more than 23,000 in 2000 according to the CDC. If there are guns in the home, everyone should have taken a firearms safety course and the gun should have a trigger lock that only adults can unlock. A huge number of gun deaths occur in the 18-21 year old age group so don't necessarily think that your late teen is a safe gun handler. Many of those deaths are probably suicides, so if you have a depressed person in the house make sure that they don't have access to guns. Statistically, more people commit suicide with firearms than via any other means.
Rebecca McCarthy (Editor) January 12, 2012 at 01:52 pm
Gary, that's sobering and valuable information. Thank you.
Leigh Hewett January 12, 2012 at 02:04 pm
That is an alarming number! Thanks for sharing. I recently paid a visit to the ACC Police Station and they are giving away free gun locks if anyone is in need of one. They are available in the lobby. I picked up one for every gun we own. Although, you're right Gary, I should not make it a practice of announcing that.
Leigh Hewett January 12, 2012 at 02:05 pm
I'm sorry to hear that you've had so many scary experiences with guns.
Leigh Hewett January 12, 2012 at 02:06 pm
Well said!
Maggie January 12, 2012 at 03:35 pm
My opinion on everything is always this - do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And so - if I ever become so mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually sick that I would deliberately harm or even kill somebody - please, please somebody stop me by any and all means necessary. Healthy people do not commit such crimes.
Karsten Torch January 12, 2012 at 05:09 pm
I love this story. If she had fired a warning shot to scare him off, he would have just come back, so congratulations to the young lady, she did a fine job. I actually like hearing these kinds of stories - when the scumbags get it, it just warms my heart.
That being said, guns are not a toy. I make sure everybody in my house, including my daughter, know about them, where they are, and know how to handle them. I also put them away when people come over to the house. The easiest way to do this is to get a safe, preferably a biometric safe that you can put within easy reach of you should you need to get at the weapon. You don't lock up your fire extinguisher so it would take you 2 minutes to get at it should a fire break out, guns are a tool for emergencies as well - they do no good if it takes you too long to get it ready to use. The number is huge in regards to gun accidents in homes that have guns vs those that don't - the answer to that is pretty obvious. However, as has been proven in Kennesaw, having guns is a deterrent to crime. While it's hard for a family member to get shot with your gun if you don't have one, it's very hard to defend yourself from an armed intruder or thug if you are unarmed. Remember - when seconds count, police are only minutes away!
GardenMagik ~ Melissa Allman January 12, 2012 at 06:50 pm
Everybody here has made some excellent points.. Great article Leigh!
Caroline U January 18, 2012 at 06:16 pm
Wow, Leigh! I had not heard this story. It's amazing! I have no idea what I would do in that kind of a situation. But I do know that I would do ANYTHING to protect my children. Who wouldn't? I agree with all the commenters who have said there is nothing more dangerous that a mother with children trying to protect them!
Great discussion! Great article!

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